Attention on Attention

Information consumes attention, Hence a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention – Herbert Simon

Before anything of significance can be accomplished with my clients and I, we will need focus, concentration, attention, the will, whatever name you want to call it.

This is THE starting point, before we take any steps down the path of creating the life experiences we would like to enjoy, we will need our undivided attention toward our vision.

Sounds simple right? This shouldn’t surprise anyone…

Most of you are aware that there is a wide spectrum of attention, from simply noticing another individual, to tuning into someone, all the way to compassion and empathy toward another individual and the attempt to understand the world they perceive.

If we have time constraints, we will more than likely just notice different phenomena throughout our day, rather than the more time consuming endeavors of attention like tuning in and compassion. If we never notice the potential depths in these events throughout our day, we never even go down the road of empathy and compassion.

I think we would all agree that attention today is under attack.  This is quite apparent for me these days as I spend time with friends, family and loved ones, everyone is quite distracted with their phones and other devices. Everything seems to be competing for our attention. An obvious example for me is when I go to post something on social media, I find myself at times on a completely random tangent five minutes later, completely off course from my original objective. The incredible tools we use to connect with the global village, for instance our phones and computers, are also in the game of grabbing our attention and seducing us, it’s a double edge sword.

It’s time to reclaim our focused attention and direct it towards our vision. We have to be mindful and turn our attention on our attention. If we notice we are getting off track too often when using our computers or phones, even television, we need to set hard limits for ourselves and stick to them. The lights and sounds literally place you in a trance so be aware of this prior to engaging in the digital theatre with such devises.

Focused attention takes energy, like any action. Each choice we make is either getting us closer or further away from creating the life we see for ourselves. The average individual gets distracted 6-10 times a minute, which is staggering. Holding our attention is difficult, it’s energy draining, that’s why we need to consciously engage and then disengage to replenish our energy reserves.

I highly recommend to each of my clients they disengage from work or a particular project every 60-90 minutes. After the 60-90 minute mark mistakes happen much more often and we begin to lose our natural flow state. View your day as a collection of short sprints rather than a long linear marathon. After the 60-90 minute sprint that is free from distractions, my clients have found it helpful to go for a quick walk around the office to regroup and to relax the muscle of attention. This disengaged activity lets the mind gather information creatively without putting the rigid structure on your attention.

The wandering mind allows us the freedom to make connections between remote elements in a new and novel way. Once we begin to see, feel and/or hear these new connections and patterns with the relaxed mind, we will need to call on our focused attention to make it a reality.

Direct your attention on what you are directing your attention to each and every moment. Every day we have the opportunity to take one more step toward or away from our vision. The magic of your day is in your daily routine, what you care about, what you believe deserves your attention. Take an inventory today of the activities and other phenomena you are directing your attention toward. Don’t focus on hitting home runs, just hit singles choice by choice, word by word, thought by thought, and you will notice 24 hours is a long time if we are directing our attention wisely. Are you in control of your attention?

Attention has become a rare commodity, but it’s a very precious commodity and magic occurs when used properly,


 

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The Art of Language

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“The syntactical nature of reality, the real secret of magic, is that the world is made of words. And if you know the words that the world is made of, you can make of it whatever you wish.”

– Terence Mckenna

There is nothing more vital to one’s life, one’s experience, than the understanding of language. We see in words, hear in words, think in words, feel in words, EVERYTHING is language. Nothing can be achieved or manifested without words, without the ability to speak about our feelings/ideas/sensations/ intelligently. All day we swim in words, like a fish in water, many of us, like myself didn’t truly realize the significance they had on my immediate experience with reality, until I was imprisoned by them. I imprisoned myself within words, but the beauty of the story is I’ve liberated myself with words. Until we become conscious of language and the machinery that it is, we can not use it as the transformational tool that it is, it is humanity’s most prized achievement.

Like any tool, it solely depends on the user, the conscious being that “picks it up.” Whether it is a pen or a paintbrush, some manifest masterpieces while others manifest more simple forms of expression. Before we use the tool that is language, it makes sense to be aware of it’s power and potential, as well as consequences if used in a manner harmful to oneself or others. Any tool that has tremendous potentiality for actualizing ideas, must be used consciously.

From a very young age, we are thrown into a sea of words, swimming and treading words to stay afloat, language makes for an incredible tool, our greatest tool with nothing even close to it, but language makes for a terrible master. Don’t be so TRUSTING of words, at all moments in the day, watching tv, talking to friends, listening to family members, reading articles, we are being conditioned. Until we cultivate a conscious bubble within ourselves we can rest in, that understands the machinery of language and how incredibly general it’s assumptions are, we will always be told how it is, what to do, etc., the rhetoric of life. There is a world beyond words, and many of us paint over reality with a mosaic of words. Words, like any tool, can be over used, we need to know when to use words and when not too. Words remove the meaning and feelings from reality.

If I were to ask you to describe love… Listen to your words… See how poorly you are describing love. Reality is almost impossible to talk about, the feelings and emotions we feel at every given moment. You KNOW what love it, but when asked to describe it with words you find they just don’t suffice. When you read and listen, when you are being conditioned by anyone, see PAST the words, and draw your own conclusions based on how you feel about the matter.

Stop tiling over reality with words, words most often than not ruin the moment, ruin the feeling, ruin the experience.

Managing Your Energy

We exist within a digital realm. Everything we do, the pace and the rhythms become more and more expedited each week. Our weeks are relentless and full of rapid fire events, one after the other in a linear sequence. Our culture celebrates breadth rather than depth, whether it’s with co-workers, friends, family or ourselves. Quick reaction and pace seems to be valued more than careful reflection. Very few us of take the time to pause and consider who we want to be or where we want to go, we believe that if we just keep working hard it will pay off. The reality is hard work without direction and purpose will not pay off, no matter how busy you are or how your mind tries to justify productivity.

At all moments of the day we are expanding and contracting our energy, with little time given to restoration. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually we are under nourished but we believe that we can perform at a high level day in and day out based on the expectations of others and ourselves. If it hasn’t happened yet, this will lead to a burn out, the wheels will eventually fall off. The goal is to be conscious enough to make a change before this burn out.

We are all trying to do the best we can, given the demands of today’s culture. A problem manifests itself when the external demands of our home and work life far exceed our capabilities and energy levels, especially with the lack of proper daily maintenance of our body and mind. We rarely get a great night sleep, use coffee to get us up and alcohol at night to unwind. All of the actions and decisions we make daily have consequences, some more visible and felt than others, but existing and building nonetheless. We are not in a position to shape the environment to us, our goals, our dreams our values, rather we shape and mold ourselves to fit the environment with a mind that is experiencing atrophy.

My coaching touches with the 4 main aspects of our existence, the physical, the emotional, the mental and the spiritual. If you have a free 45-minutes I invite you to jump on a call with me so we can take an inventory of your current situation and see if we can make a great team to begin to manifest the life you know you ought to be experiencing.

The Dance between Patience and Mindful Business

In today’s business culture, common words that are thrown around are “Grinding,” “Hustle,” “Workaholic,” “Do, Do, Do,” “More! More! More!.” The business culture I was deeply embedded in and the values it upheld and what I directly came in contact with based on my own immediate feelings, always seemed out of harmony. We are quickly handed the industry rhetoric as to how things are, the proverbial “blueprint for success.” Follow this concept, this model, and you will achieve the reward. We quickly hit the ground running because we have the consistent set of waves coming in known as bills, debt, and so on. There is no time for patience, for reflection, I need to go DO something or the industry will leave me in the dust, I will lose to the competition, I won’t be able to pay my bills or maintain MY lifestyle.

Take a deep breath… the momentum and tension builds and builds until it works against us completely.

In the same way we are handed a concept of “how it is” in business, the same goes for life. What I failed to realize, and many others, is the mere fact that it is simply THEIR concept as to how life or the industry is, just one concept of seemingly infinite. Once we believe what we are told as to “how it is” then we use such a small portion of our unique faculty and creativity because there is a small space of wiggle room within the confining walls of “their concept and models for what THEY believe success is” and how to achieve it. Learn what you’d like from mentors, teachers etc and then forget it all, throw it away, the information and technologies available now didn’t exists back then when they developed their models and concepts, and most importantly it was contoured to fit their unique faculty, not yours.

Manifest your own concepts and models that work within the harmony of YOU and the unique faculty you have at your disposal.

Before you begin in an industry, it is highly beneficial to first look at it from a birds eye view as a “Game.” By game I mean it adheres to rules, roles, and boundaries. Regardless of industry, everything operates within a system of order, some more complicated than others. The one that truly understands this, does not view business as competitive, rather they view it as collaborative. The Male Dominator Complex influenced by greed and fear that many in the business world are working off of is not worth any amount of material gain compared to what it costs you in the end.

The Rules and Boundaries of the game you are entering into are rather simple concepts, your Role in the game is what I’d like to dive deeper into…

Until you clearly figure out what your role is, your strengths and what you enjoy, how this “work” fits within your ideal day, which hopefully you have drawn out, you’ll just inherit someone else’s concept or model for success, that was completely molded to fit their strengths and their lifestyle. You’ll quickly find yourself in situations, like I did, where you are “forcing” or “grinding” yourself to work in ways that are out of touch of your natural rhythm rather than shaping your work day around your strengths and special faculty we all have.

Speaking from my own experience, I never reflected and figured out what I was truly good at, what I enjoyed, in other words I didn’t feel I really had a purpose, I just floated from job to job as a means to cover my monthly expenses and what would make me the most money. True financial freedom is not achieved by thinking about achieving financial freedom. There is a reason you are here, a purpose, you are not an accident, you are present because you need to be. You have a skill set that nobody has ever had in the history of man, what are your skills? Does the job you currently have use these skills? What does your dream day look like? How does your job or business fit within that perfect day?

Rather than speaking about being uphappy, disliking aspects of ourselves or phenomena like our job/relationships etc., write down what your perfect day looks like and what you do like. This is the first step in making it a reality, begin to visualize it and speak about it intelligently.

If one takes a step back and clearly views the process of nature, which we are an integral part of, it is quite clear that our immediate experience is becoming more and more complex, otherwise known as novelty. Nature produces higher systems of order and complexification to produce even higher states of order and complexification. Since this is the case, where our time and energy is spent is critical to a healthy experience. With complexity taking place faster and faster, we need to be highly fluid, adaptable and organized. We can’t get stuck within models and concepts that were formulated based on conditions that were far different from the present. As we can take a step out of the infinite games we partake in daily, our business, our relationships, all phenomena, and reflect, we can navigate through the ever changing complexifying landscape with greater ease. One of the most productive activities is non activity, let the dust settle where we have been stopping around in all week to see our path more clearly and gracefully.

If you have any questions or would like to work with me, feel free to email me at wespinkston@gmail.com, I hope you all have a wonderful week.

Coming to our Senses

For our basic survival we are provided little, merely our wits and senses. Our wits and senses are shaped entirely by our centric view of self and the need for survival along with the environment which we exist in, mainly the language that shaped the environment. The tool that shifted our sense perceptions was the introduction of the phonetic alphabet (Your ABC’s), in roughly 500 B.C. The environment for our survival today, rather than the grass lands of our ancestors is of a digital nature and landscape which is far much complex due to the mere speed at which patterns of information reach our senses.

The emergence of the digital landscape has shifted our sense perceptions drastically, in a general sense it is going from a visual landscape to an acoustic one. This requires new sensory adjustments that many are incapable of making, resulting in confusion and a conquest for the illusion of identity which the phonetic alphabet manifested. While our immediate experience in this new environment is acoustic, meaning whole, disconnected and spontaneous, we are using a visual bias, which creates a great deal of cognitive dissonance.

Physiologically, it is the play of both the left and right hemisphere of the brain. On the left we have the logical, rational, connected, linear, private and individualistic faculty. On the right we encounter the faculty of intuition, community, disconnected and simultaneous (The Artist). Many children encounter this today, using a highly participatory medium such as the television and then attending school which is completely left hemisphere, evaluative, analytical, non participatory, homogeneous. This dynamic of visual to acoustic without understanding, creates innumerable psychological blockages and tension.

In order to traverse the landscape we need to get back to our bodies as the primary director of our survival. Not simply having knowledge of our sense perceptions and how certain mediums play with figure and ground, but a true understanding that can be implemented.

Take a hear and look around, what patterns do you recognize? If we can see the patterns and congruency that life manifests from, we will be in a better and more relaxed position from moment to moment, because the “future” is much more predicable than we ever believed. When this composed state of mind is achieved, we function in a much more smooth manner rather than emotionally reactive to a seemingly infinite wave of unforeseen trouble.

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“I met Wes Pinkston on Instagram about a month or so ago, I was looking to add some spiritually minded, consciousness based people to my network. I saw Wes’s profile and saw he was a life coach and instantly just had to connect. After our 45-minute consultation I knew that he was definitely somebody that I wanted to work with. He put a lot of my anxieties to rest, a lot of fears that I had by working with a coach. He let me express myself and I felt very comfortable in doing that and then from that point he addressed and outlined the ways that he could assist me in my process. Since I would like to definitely be coaching people at some point along my path in my journey as well. The month I’ve been working with Wes so far has definitely helped me out with that process exponentially. For me I can get a little out there sometimes and what I really like about working with Wes is that he entertains that space for me and makes me feel very comfortable being myself and then at the same time he’ll make sure that we get back on track and stay focused on the task at hand. That process is so valuable for me because without working with somebody like that I can get all over the place. He really helps me ground down, get practical and take a lot of the potential I have and start to make it actual. For that I am eternally grateful working with him so far, he’s truly, truly, an amazing mentor. Bob Proctor had a quote that I think really sums of Wes very well, a mentor is somebody that sees your talents and abilities maybe even better than you and helps bring them out of you. Working with Wes so far, that describes him to a “T” without a doubt. We’re working right now on taking a lot of the potential that I have and making that actual through particular tasks each time that we work together and talk. For example, building out a website, creating content, without his kind of knowledge and expertise in these areas I probably would still be spinning my wheels right now. It is still a process, particularly for me, because I do tend to overthink, over-analyze, and make it more complicated than it is. But again Wes, bless his heart, he is so patient with me and at the same time very persistent. He’ll work with me with where I’m at and at the same time he’ll make sure we keep our eyes on the prize and get back on track. He’s definitely one of the more balanced individuals that think I’ve ever met and that is something that I truly admire, in amazement about, you don’t find too many people like that in the world. Either they can be a little bit high on the hyper masculine side and just so rigid or somewhere on the feminine side extreme where it’s just kind of floating around aimlessly without any direction or purpose. I find myself on the feminine side of things at times. Again, working with Wes has been truly, truly a blessing because he’s taking me where I’m at and he’s assisting me in the process of finding that balance. This guy truly does walk his talk and that is something that I’m looking to incorporate into my own life. Once again I am very grateful that Wes is taking time out of his life, his days and his journey to assist me in that process and I know that once I reach that level, coaching, assisting other people, similar to how he is, the sky’s the limit. I am super excited to see what the future holds working with Wes, I really feel as though we can do some great things together. That’s what I have to say about Wes, amazing dude, I hope you all decide to work with him and I know it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life.”

Greg Jacobsen

The Power of Questions

As I was driving back to Encinitas (North County San Diego) from Beverly Hills this past weekend, I saw a familiar sign on the freeway, The “55.” I quickly processed the information and decided to let my intuition take me down the 55 freeway to my former college Chapman University. Campus was only a few miles from my route so I figured I’d stop by, mainly to visit the football team that I was an integral part of from 2005 through 2008.

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My strong intuition didn’t mislead me, I stopped by the coaching offices and connected on a much deeper level with all my former coaches than all the years prior, combined. It was these moments that I’ve come to cherish more than anything, but why have these deeply connected moments and conversations been happening at an increasing rate…

You can only connect with others as deeply as you have connected with yourself.

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These deep connections have always been there, in every moment, I just didn’t have the vision to realize it and bring it out. As I was meditating that night, after speaking to 100 current players, coaches and staff, I came to the realization my perception and role in each conversation had shifted from the one giving the answers and waiting from my turn to speak, to the one deeply interested in them and their life’s experiences. I am far more fascinated with interviewing others than talking to others about myself.

What are they seeing, feeling, sensing. What does their daily routine consist of, how do they prioritize their events for the day, what books and mentors completely shifted their perception of life, how exactly did this shift occur? How do you handle transitions, whether it’s job or relationships…

If we can forget about our own selfish stance in the discussion, and become enamored by their life experiences, we can coax out golden knowledge nuggets that even they weren’t aware of. The power of strategic and timely questions can create profound and unforgettable connections that we all deeply yearn for.

Whether it is an upper class-man who is playing your position in football, or a high level CEO that you’d like to emulate, extracting their process and actions that get the results are just a few conscious questions away. Put the other individual in the spotlight and break down their key pivotal moments and approaches to life, by learning from their experiences we can save ourselves a lot of time, energy and unwarranted stress.


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Ego Yoga

For many reading this, including myself, the most practiced yoga in the West is Ego Yoga. If I may take a partisan stance on all yogas, from my experience it is by far the most difficult. Before I begin let’s define yoga, it simply means “Union.” The list of Yoga’s are infinite so there is no need to list them. Yoga is much more vast than handstands and body contortion, although that is the most highly publicized.

You and I, we chose Ego yoga, no one hypnotized, tricked or forced us to go down this path, we did it, it was our own karma. Karma is highly misused, it simply means “action.”

What is the Ego?

Ego is simply Your Character Structure, who you THINK you are. Your likes, your dislikes, your story, your past, your friends, your family, your job, your strengths, your weaknesses, your misfortunes, and the list is infinite. Almost everyone here in the West only views this world that they feel they came into, without their approval, as this detached limited character with little to no support.

I, a stranger and afraid
In a world I never made.

This character, (Insert Your Name Here), is merely a thought. Think about that statement this week, the image of yourself, as to who you think you are is merely a thought, albeit a constant thought you decide to keep in your head nearly every moment. Imagine this character, your name and life story, as a suit in your closet. Each night when we fall into the dream state while sleeping we forget all about this character we have made ourselves to be, and when we rise we walk to our closet and put on this suit of my likes, my fears, my righteousness, my problems every single morning. We have cut ourselves off from the world we were born out of, that we belong to, we did not come into it. That is why we have some of the most difficult feelings and emotions available as we progress along this path of Ego Yoga, we have completely removed ourselves and have lost touch with our support, our home, where we belong, we are fighting and competing against ourselves every single day and the fight gets very tiring, our arms, our entire body and our mind become weary and almost depleted.

During Ego Yoga we progressively cut ourselves off from the seemingly “outside world” and we begin to feel alienated. We can not escape this alienated present moment, the eternal present where we never feel we belong, I can’t catch a break, everyone is against me, I work too hard to be in this position, the infinite self-righteous internal chatter. This disconnected “now” that you find yourself in, is the true birth place for responsibility. Oddly enough this shows you are making progress, although I had moments along my path where all enthusiasm for life had almost run completely dry.

I’ve felt and experienced the humbling path of ego yoga, I see my own immediate family along their paths of ego yoga, I see my friends and many of my clients, this is the most highly practiced path here in the West and it all leads to the same place, union with everything, that you are deeply part of, whether you want to be or not 😉 Be patient and conscious, observe, let life live through you rather than always trying to go out and live life, as you become more sensitive you will realize you are fully supported and you are growing each and every moment. Life, your immediate experience, is energy. Energy is vibration, in another term, contrast. Everything is wiggling, sometimes the wiggle doesn’t feel as you’d like it to, but that feeling comes from the egoic self-righteous stance of how you feel life should cater and suit your character’s needs. Life can’t be controlled, but our Ego Yoga path will teach us that directly. You are in class, and we should find grace in the curriculum.

If you have any questions or would like to work with me, feel free to email me at wespinkston@gmail.com, I hope you all have a wonderful week.

The Art of Direct Experience

As I’ve allowed my curiosity to lead me in directions and to ideas I never knew existed, I’ve been trying to gather my thoughts on how I can put the information I’ve gathered in a simple and somewhat rational sequence that some may benefit from and can put to use in their daily experience. Nothing is more important than YOUR own experience, your life, what is taking place in the here and now. Many of us trip over memories from our past or invite the uncertain future, and it is safe to say many of us have gone a very long time without an immediate experience of any kind.

Before I begin on the first of many installments I plan to post, I’d like us to attempt to unlearn and train ourselves in a new way regarding the method in which we gather information and form concepts. We are either being conditioned to think a certain way based on someone else’s vastly different experience OR we are fully conscious and creating our own way of thinking and deciphering the information we are receiving without anyone telling us “This Is How It Is.” From a very young age, as we become more and more conscious (aware) we are playing many roles. The most consistent of these roles is “The Child of Parents X and Y.” We come into consciousness with an enthusiasm for life that is natural to our being and truly in rhythm with who we are. As the years go on we begin to take information on authority not just from our parents but also teachers, friends, industry professionals and the media. Like any concept or method, unless you are aware of it you can’t see it, like a fish in water has no concept of being in water, it just is the way it is. One quickly begins to realize that they are turning into their parents, the conditioning/parenting/learning that takes place is never done voluntary, we are punished if we don’t “see” it our parents way. The parent thinks they know best so they say this is the way it is, since they don’t know better and can only teach what they were taught, what they are really saying is this is my belief system that I think is true and if you act in accordance with what I believe I will grade you as “Good” or “Bad.” We quickly begin acting, analyzing, evaluating not with what we directly experience but through the lens of our belief system that is conditioned into us.

It is difficult to reduce such a vast topic of immediate experience into a short introductory post but my future posts will be under specific categories. For them to be truly absorbed and understood they all have their rightful place in the greater whole. If I can leave you with a “tip” going forward to bring into your daily experience that has greatly helped myself, it’d be to take on the childlike enthusiasm/curiosity we were born with and question everything, ask yourself the question “How do I feel?” As you begin to question and you become more aware, what you begin to seek starts seeking you in an act of dual happening, and you become fully empowered at each moment.