As I was driving back to Encinitas (North County San Diego) from Beverly Hills this past weekend, I saw a familiar sign on the freeway, The “55.” I quickly processed the information and decided to let my intuition take me down the 55 freeway to my former college Chapman University. Campus was only a few miles from my route so I figured I’d stop by, mainly to visit the football team that I was an integral part of from 2005 through 2008.

Wes Pinkston -Life Coach and Business Coach

My strong intuition didn’t mislead me, I stopped by the coaching offices and connected on a much deeper level with all my former coaches than all the years prior, combined. It was these moments that I’ve come to cherish more than anything, but why have these deeply connected moments and conversations been happening at an increasing rate…

You can only connect with others as deeply as you have connected with yourself.

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These deep connections have always been there, in every moment, I just didn’t have the vision to realize it and bring it out. As I was meditating that night, after speaking to 100 current players, coaches and staff, I came to the realization my perception and role in each conversation had shifted from the one giving the answers and waiting from my turn to speak, to the one deeply interested in them and their life’s experiences. I am far more fascinated with interviewing others than talking to others about myself.

What are they seeing, feeling, sensing. What does their daily routine consist of, how do they prioritize their events for the day, what books and mentors completely shifted their perception of life, how exactly did this shift occur? How do you handle transitions, whether it’s job or relationships…

If we can forget about our own selfish stance in the discussion, and become enamored by their life experiences, we can coax out golden knowledge nuggets that even they weren’t aware of. The power of strategic and timely questions can create profound and unforgettable connections that we all deeply yearn for.

Whether it is an upper class-man who is playing your position in football, or a high level CEO that you’d like to emulate, extracting their process and actions that get the results are just a few conscious questions away. Put the other individual in the spotlight and break down their key pivotal moments and approaches to life, by learning from their experiences we can save ourselves a lot of time, energy and unwarranted stress.

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About the Author wespinkston

Wes Pinkston is an Award-Winning Life Coach, Business Coach and Philosopher in San Diego, CA. At the age of 29, a profound inner transformation radically changed the course of his life. He is now devoted to understanding, integrating and deepening that transformation, which has marked the beginning of an intense inward journey. As a guide, Wes assists others in entering into an enhanced awareness of self and environment. This altered perception serves as a gateway, which if entered, facilitates a crucial transformation. The outcome of this is directed by the uniqueness of the individual and their willingness to pursue whatever unfolds. Wes assists with the expansion of his client's personal potential, leading to the achievement of greater fulfillment in their life. With his guidance and support, the client is able to access and walk their true path. His techniques create an enabling foundation which supports a self-sustaining guidance and growth mechanism. Thus he continually supports self-empowerment. Wes emphasizes the development and necessity of a clear connection to body awareness. The physical body is a resource uniquely tuned to act as a vehicle for the development of personal power – the force that drives and guides one to manifest a life with purpose and meaning.